1) Show off what your mama gave you. In every person, there is something that wish we could secretly change of our body appearance BUT there is also something that we covet and we would never change. If you have the greatest calves, nicest hair, or piercing eyes, you need to emphasize this to the max. How? Time to find the clothes that complement that asset and dressing like a boss. Use colors in your wardrobe that complement your skin tone. Wear accessory pieces that highlight your eyes or hair. Find an outfit that makes you feel strong and powerful. The overheard phrase “fake it till you make it” can be said about your clothes. People give you this attention that helps you feel good on the inside.
2) Give strong non-verbals when you’re talking to someone. Keep feet pointed at the person. Nod with intention and keep eyes focused on the person. Smile naturally and keep hands and palms open towards the person appropriately. These non-verbals signal from the outside viewer that you display an air of confidence and openness that implies charisma. Try it out with a friend so that you can practice more naturally and casually since it takes time to develop these skills without looking forced or awkward.
3) It almost feels given that diet and exercise are a given in any self esteem tips. The doctor says it, the research says it, and you know it. So there won’t be any more info on here to bore you to death about it. You just need to do it. One simple way you can move towards self-confidence is to bring a salad to work. You will undoubtedly receive complements of how healthy that looks (borderline snarky at times, as you smile at your coworkers). Nevertheless, your day won’t end in energy seeking afternoon for coffee or sweets. Lastly, take a small walk around your work if this is possible to help gain some exercise in the day.
4) Do something for yourself that makes you feel good. Get your nails and hair done, cook or bake, make a piece of art, find a project that requires time and patience but you love doing. Find a hobby that gives you self-satisfaction. Lower stress means higher peaks of happiness. You have less to worry about in the world and can focus on an added skill to your already piquing self esteem. When I was a counselor, I often found that when people listed their top skills, and 100% believed in them. They felt more confident in their abilities.
5) Friends and not the ones that meet at Central Perk. Support systems have been widely praised in research for self care and self esteem. Friends are like this pyramid that give you structure and won’t let your crumble in your hardest times. In terms of self-esteem, you want people in your lives who make you become a better version of you, provide realness, and positivity.
6) Smile. When you are the store, the movies, at work, smile at strangers when you cross their paths. No not the creepy smile but the smile that implies hello. People may give you looks or confusion. They may try to be mean and take your smile away, but a genuine smile is such a strong impact on others it can not only make a change in their day but you feel good as well. Research has found that the most influential people are those who smile. This simple technique is the first thing people see when they see you and making a strong impact also imparts strong self-esteem (even if you tend to be a negative person)
References: https://etd.ohiolink.edu/!etd.send_file?accession=osu1148048556&disposition=inline
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