The title might through you off but there are ways to give this sense of power and charisma. Like a snake that sways to the music or a therapist uses that hypnotic voice, you too can access it and almost become contagious with another person.
The TED talk You Are Contagious by Vanessa Van Edwards has been viewed over a mlliion times on YouTube. I have noticed a few points that stick out that are very helpful to use in any situation of your life.
Let's dive in.
1) Be expressive with your hand gestures. Let's not be dramatic and be all over the place but use them specifically and intentionally when you're speaking your point. Why? You are more likely to give weight to a person's point of conversation when they use their hands. Your brain gives almost 12.5 times more weight to hang gestures.
2) Use facial expressions, non-verbals, and your voice to match your mindset. We have what are called micro facial expressions. These expressions like a surprised look, a tired look, or a dissatisfied look are all non verbals that other people read. When we are happy, our faces light up, are eyes widen, and we genuinely feel happy. So our emotions are tied to mindset.
When we combined our micro expression with our voice, you can even hear it in the voice. When you hear someone say hello with a happiness, you hear the perk in the voice. When you nod as you speak, the person receiving your message may mimic your nod which means they are slightly agreeing to your point.
3) Ask questions that excite people. Dopamine in our brain activates what I call Janet Jacksons "pleasure principle." When we think of the most amazing vacation we've had where our toes spread into the sand, our brain lights up and we smile. That dopamine is there. When you ask someone "what's exciting" a person's brain lights up and think all the positive things they have done. Try it with a friend. Lastly, say "I'm excited" before an event. You look forward to it and studies have shown people were more confident in their situations when they said before "I'm excited."
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